You're doing your best but life's demands keep coming at you.
Practical steps and real-life support for women who struggle to keep up with everyday life and want things to work better
Need Fast Relief? Try these right now.
I Can't Regulate How I Feel
Do this:
Pause. Notice what is bothering you or on your mind, that you can't let go of?
Speak a neutral or helpful truth about the situation. Like "I don't need to fix all of this right now." Or "that person hurt me because they are hurting." Then, move it in your body - get up, take a deep breath, or shake it out.
What Do I Want?
Try this when: You struggle to think in the moment.
As soon as you are able:
Notice how your body and mind respond to something - cringing, delighted, feeling heavy, or anything else - when something happens, when someone talks to you, when you need to do something.
Recognize the response - then consider ways to honor those feelings. For a cringing feeling, consider what would make it less distasteful. For a heavy feeling, notice a way to make it lighter. For a delighted feeling, consider a way to share or express it.
I Can't Think Clearly
Try this when you feel confused:
Stop trying to think.
Name the actual problem once.
Notice what comes to mind after you named the problem.
Whatever comes next - that's what you need to deal with.
Order comes from taking action, not analyzing.
Everything Feels Like Too Much
Try this when:
You need or want to do everything - all the things, right now. Take a minute to recognize what matters so you can begin "soothing" each problem one by one, and make progress.
- What is the result you want? If you have a million things for the day, it might be something like: "have a productive day while keeping my sanity and not burning all my energy"
- What actually matters about that? Keep asking until you get to one or two actions you can start.
- Set a timer. (If you can't start, go to the "I can't get started" block on this slide)
Why Can't I Take Action?
Try this when:
You can't get yourself to start.
Name what you are doing
Do one thing that tells you "it's go time." Ex: Putting your coat on, standing up, turning your computer on)
Pick 1-5 essential parts to it - BASICS only, (not necessarily everything that comes to mind)
Decide what enough looks like. (one small task, a time limit, a few small pieces)
End the activity - cut all ties with it. (Close the laptop, put away the notebooks, write down your NEXT steps & put it in the space for NEXT time, stop thinking about "I'll just get to these 1 or 2 things later. If you've done what you decided was "enough," build trust with yourself by not adding more to it.)
Why It Feels So Hard
If you have ever felt like you are missing some secret manual about how to manage life, you are not alone.
Most advice assumes skills you were never shown. Skills that are overlooked or mentioned in a way that only people who HAVE these skills will understand.
Many women learned to push through and figure it out - until they are frustrated and know things need to change.
When we learn to live life in a way that gives energy instead of taking it away, things start to feel easier.
Make Your Day Flow
Making your day flow isn't something that just happens - it's about the approach you're using all day long. How you start, make decisions, and transition between things affects both what gets done and how supported or overwhelmed you feel doing it.
This is why new planners and systems rarely make big changes.
Once you know HOW, you can use it to make any day more of whatever you need it to be - fun, productive, enjoyable, focused, etc.
This workbook is designed to help you practice these skills - through one simple, supported, real-life day that shows you what "flow" actually feels like.Release The Pressure
Even when the day is flowing, the pressure can remain underneath the surface. Making sure all the fires are put out and everyone has what they need.
Giving all the effort you have, trying harder, and making things more manageable, when really, all you want is not to feel the pressure and stress. To keep up, to be enough, do enough, and let life be enough.
I'm Erin.
I wrestled with "how to live" for 20 years. I read things like "no one really figures it out" and "it's difficult for everyone" and thought to myself, "well, it sure looks like they have it figured out."
Now, I know not just how to live, but how to THRIVE. I know what matters, what to do, and how to keep myself and others feeling great while reaching my goals. And I can help you reach the same, whatever "great" looks like to you.